Embracing our Imperfections - the Antidote to hustle

Embracing our Imperfections - the Antidote to hustle

"It is in the process of embracing our imperfections 

that we find our truest gifts: 
courage, compassion, and connection. . . .


When we can let go of what other people think
and [listen to our] own our [embodied] story, **
we gain access to our worthiness
—the feeling that we are enough just as we are 
and that we are worthy of love and belonging. 


When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves 
from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, 
we stand outside of our story 
and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. . . ."


**Brené Brown - The gifts of Imperfection -emphasis and brackets mine.

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I really think this captures so much of what we're hoping to do here in Focusing. The key difference is - Brené encourages us to "let go of" - and, well, that is not easy to do. In fact, just recently, in a letter I received from hospice to help me process my grief after my dad died, they said something about you cannot let go of what you have not acknowledged.

And you've been learning not to let go of your stories - but to press into the whole embodied feel of them. 

This is new to most of us. 
This is brave for all of us.
And, this week, as you press into cultivating your Self@E.A.S.E., you'll be reminded that the only way we can keep doing this work is to continue cultivating being in our own strong True Self Presence. If we are "hustling" for our worthiness - grasping, clutching, wearing ourselves out, we're not in our Self@E.A.S.E. But from our Self@E.A.S.E. we can sit beside and be friendly toward all the hustling, trying to figure it out, angry, overwhelmed and sad parts of us!

What catches your attention from this Brené quote? 
In what way do you sense it connects to your Focusing journey so far?

Please feel free to share in the comments below. 

Doorways to the Soul 1 - Spring 2024

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Welcome to Doorways to the Soul

  • Welcome Video!!
  • Doorways - Week 00 - Intro reading.pdf
  • An optional practice before we come together for our first Zoom class
  • Zoom link for all our classes
  • Schedule a pre-course Focusing Session with Paula
  • ➡️ Class Roster 💕 for scheduling partnerships.1
  • A note about all written Doorways Materials
  • A little video history of Gene Gendlin ... the father of Focusing.
  • How this Podia thing works

Week 1 - The Power of a P.A.U.S.E.

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  • Never be in a hurry...
  • Doorways Reading - Week01.pdf
  • Doorways Cheat Sheet - Week01.pdf
  • Doorways Video Week 01 - Pausing to come In.mp4
  • DW1 Wk 1 04.04.24.mp4

Week 2 - Attend with Affection

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  • The human soul doesn't want to be advised, fixed or saved...1
  • Doorways Reading - Week02.pdf
  • Doorways Cheat Sheet Week 02.pdf
  • How to NOT nurture yourself…
  • DW1 Wk 2 04.11.24.mp4

Week 3 - Unhurried Wonder

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  • Doorways Reading - Week03.pdf
  • Doorways Cheat Sheet Week 03
  • Eavesdropping on Soul.mp4
  • Dw 1 Wk 2 Class Recording 04.18.24.mp4

Week 4 - Sense Freshly and Describe

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  • What will your verse/poem be?
  • Some tips on Companioning
  • Doorways Reading - Week04.pdf
  • Sensing Freshly vs Labeling .mp4
  • Doorways Cheat Sheet Week 04.pdf
  • DW1 Wk4 04.25.24.mp4

Week 5 - The Emerging Edge

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  • Doorways Reading - Week05.pdf
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 05.pdf
  • My hot tub story
  • Some ways to use Focusing in your Everyday life
  • Focusing in Everyday Life.pdf
  • DW1 Wk 5 - Emerging Edge 05.02.24.mp4

Week 6 - Cultivating your Self@E.A.S.E.

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  • Embracing our Imperfections - the Antidote to hustle1
  • Doorways Reading - Week06.pdf
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 06.pdf
  • Bonus Video ➡️ Layers of Self.mp4
  • DW1 Wk6 05.09.24.mp41

Week 7 - The Soul Speaks at the Edge (Felt-Sensing)

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  • The Felt Sense opens the Door.
  • Short, Medium and Long Lead-In Template
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 07.pdf
  • Doorways Reading - Week07.pdf
  • Ann Weiser Cornell Focusing demo we watched in class
  • DW1 Wk 7 05.16.24.mp4

Week 8 - An Unhurried Befriending

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  • How can you tell if you’re Focusing
  • Doorways Reading - Week08.pdf
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 08.pdf
  • OPTIONAL: pgg demo of focusing.mp4
  • DW1 Wk 8 05.23.24.mp4

Week 9 - The Art of Listening to heart, soul, mind and strength

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  • Doorways Reading - Week09.pdf
  • Doorways - 6 Recommendations.pdf
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 09.pdf
  • Take a little listen to Ann talking about "What happens when we close our eyes to Focus?"
  • How to (belong) be alone by Padraig O' Tuama1
  • DW1 Wk 9 05.30.24.mp4

Week 10 - The Radical Welcome of Everything

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  • A lifestyle of invitation to the grace that heals2
  • How NOT to be welcoming1
  • Releasing Blocks to Action
  • Extra Resource: A Radical Welcome: Focusing with the Part of us that wants to die
  • Doorways Reading - Week 10.pdf
  • Doorways Liturgy of Grace Week 10.pdf
  • DW1 Wk 10 06.06.24.mp4

What’s Next?

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  • What does Doorways 2 involve?
  • What to do between now and Doorways 2
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